Research shows that daughters of moms with PCOS are more likely to have it than daughters of women without PCOS. No big surprise there.
And this may sound funny, but since I found out I was pregnant with Bonnie, I’ve prayed over her body, her health and her fertility constantly. If she wants to have a family one day, I want that for her too. And it would be really nice if she could have that without the heartache, loneliness, and depleted bank accounts that come along with fertility treatments!
As Bonnie’s mom, I know there are some practical steps I can take, in addition to being her prayer warrior, to help give her the best possible chance for fertility:
1) Feed her yummy, wholesome, unprocessed foods. Make sure they are always easily accessible so that her body will be well-nourished, and filled with good things rather than junk.
2) Teach her to make good food choices by cooking, baking, and eating with her!
3) Develop and maintain my own healthy relationship with food so that I can model that for her. This means learning to feed my body and my hunger, instead of my emotions. This means choosing foods that are going to heal and help my body, and eliminating foods that won’t.
4) Make physical activity a fun and regular part of each day. Right now, this means taking Bonnie for walks with me, but one day it will mean letting her walk or ride her bike, going for swims, playing at the park, playing ball outside with the dog.
5) Tell her daily how beautiful she is, and how cherished she is by me and by Christ. Speak God’s love and His truths to her constantly, so that she knows her worth lies in HIM, and not in the condition or appearance of her body, nor in the acceptance of others.
As Bonnie is getting older and becoming more and more alert and “grown up,” I am feeling the weight of responsibility as her mom more and more. First and foremost, I feel the weight of teaching her and talking to her about Jesus; of modeling for her the fruits of the Spirit by cultivating them in my own life; of teaching her to pray; of teaching her the ways of Christ when the ways of this world so contradict the heart of Christ.
But after all those things, I also feel the weight of raising a daughter with a healthy relationship with her body and with food. These are things I struggled with for years, and still do to a degree. And maybe all women do to some extent, but I sure would like to minimize that as much as possible. These have been such issues in my life, and I simply do not want that for her.
I don’t want her to be defined by any physical imperfection, and disease or syndrome, any shortcoming. We all have them, but we are not in bondage to them if we are in Christ, because if the Son sets us free, we are FREE INDEED! (John 8:36)